Why You Still Haven't Forgiven Yourself

There is a point in everyone's life when the time comes for self-forgiveness. A time when you have apologized and corrected, and you recognize your mistakes of the past, but you still live with the weight, the guilt, and the fear that someone might find you that you were not always the person you are today.

You may find yourself in need of reassurance that you are a respected and loved person. What you're looking for is just forgiveness- and not from anyone but from yourself. 

One of the hardest things, we will ever do in our life will be forgiving ourselves. This is not due to the fact that we are the masochists in hell of struggling to pay off the karmic debts, but because true self-forgiveness means acknowledging that we were wrong, and also realizing that there is a better way.

That's hard enough but there is something else also: we generally hold onto our guilts just as a constant reminder not to make the same mistake again. And this guilt is a sign that we have not learned a lesson from that particular mistake. 

You do not resist excusing yourself because you think you deserve more suffering. Rather, you resist self-forgiveness because you are scared that if you will forgive then you will end up right back in the same place and most probably will commit the same mistake you did before.

Here is something that you must understand to let go of it.

YOUR GUILT IS NOT BAD

If you are guilty at something-say it is your own mistake or someone else mistakes then it is a sign that you care for others. People who do not have a real moral compass, do not think twice about hurting anyone - or at least, they agree to do this while feeling very emotional. In simple words, your feelings of guilt and letting it go that doesn't mean you are as bad you are thinking of yourself. And there are such people in this world who don't feel a shred of remorse about their behaviors. So what you do is not a bad thing.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT THE SAME AS SELF-JUSTIFICATION

Holding onto guilt will not serve anybody-except yourself. That guilt hardly changes your past or future. It just makes you sad, prevents you from being present, and takes real action to change your life and behavior. 

"THE PAST CANNOT COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU UNLESS YOU CARRY YOUR PAST WITH YOU"

When you will learn the lesson from the mistake then you will never have guilt. Make things clear in your life like when you know what you did and why you did it will stop disturbing you. 

A simple formula is to change your behavior. When you will change it, you will stop fearing from the past that it will repeat because you know it won't. 

Forgiving yourself is not the same as blaming yourself, it's just changing yourself so that you can move forward in your life with happiness and worth.

Realize this - nobody is perfect and everybody has made some mistakes, so don't excuse you from your own, it will reduce the fear of defective. 

The point is not to feel bad that you are not a good person. The point is to get up, work, and start improving day by day.

That work will only begin with a willingness to forgive.

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