How You Judge Others Is How You Judge Yourself

If you are afraid of getting judged by others, it's just because you are judging other people. 

If you fear failure, it may be because you don't know the value of other people's accomplishments.

If you are afraid of being disliked in society its probably because you might be always seeing the worst in others so that you can get a chance to praise yourself.

When we are facing low self-esteem, we see the world only by our perspective and all those emotions and tantrums become centre stage in our life. We only see how we are treated without seeing the relationship between how we approach the world and how the world responds to us.

We usually grade our self-esteem on how the world treats us. We reinforce ourselves in a number that others have acknowledged; we love ourselves to the point that we are loved; we believe that the essence of who we are in the totality of what is said about us and us; we think we succeed just as the world perceives us to be beautiful, as beautiful as others feel, just as we are told. 

Instead reverse is true. Our self-image has a great impact from the world then from the others it's like -what we say of others, how we treat the world, what we take inside us from society, what we judge and what we perceive to be successful.

Our reaction to others becomes the last karmic curtain. We cannot surrender ourselves with more grace than we have been given. We usually set a baseline to think that those around us are inferior to us and not doing well as they should do. We just simply judge their life choices and our own.

Like, let's have a few examples to know it - when we go to meet our friend, we judge the clothing she wears, and our brain sets a standard and forces us to be better to look more good than her. 

If you are judging a job someone else does, then you will set a standard higher than her so that you can be superior. 

If we judge the looks of a person, we set the standards to look better than her. Like if your friend comes up with red hair color from a famous salon, you will go to a better salon from that and have another color.

This will never end, till we will get absolute failures because we cannot live to prove ourselves or to be better always. These are just impossible expectations that will never end.

You should always feel satisfied in whatever way you are living and whatever you have. Stop comparing yourself with someone to be better than him. 

From this, I remembered a famous dialogue from the movie - 'Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani' that is - "Jitna Bhi Try Karo, Kuch Na Kuch Toh Chootega Hi. Isliye Yahin, Isi Pal Ka Maza Lete Hain." 

(Even after trying with all our might, there will be something or someone that will be left behind so why not to enjoy the present moment with all our mind and soul.)

This has a real meaning which can be learned as a life lesson. 

The best way to come out of those comparisons is - always find the best in others and grab that quality in your life if you needed. Always praise others' acknowledgments if you don't have any. If you like someone's beauty, character, confidence, or anything, go and appreciate it even if it forces you to guess your own.

The more you will appreciate someone's success or something, the more you will be able to revel on your own. This will help you to recognize your own beauty. The more you will love someone the more will come back to you. 

After this, you will stop living in those permanent competitions instead you will start to see the positivity everyone has.

Everyone is simply doing the best they can to do it. 

It's just the mind game. Just see your life that would be enough for you to grow.

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