Why you should avoid Misplaced Anger ?

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Like an animal without a cage in a jungle is dangerous similarly is the case with anger. Once anger is provoked, it can lash out on anyone within the reach of his claws. Like, it was quite evident and true before this pandemic situation as when a man gets angry, he leaves his job and joins the other, or a woman annoyed with her friend, loses her temper on her kids.

But believe me, if in this universe we had an instrument of measuring anger then this pandemic and its many challenges would be pushing the anger needle to red. All of this accumulated overflowing certainly pours into real-world connections. And the news channel is evidence of this. Like stores across the country have enforced rules of masks, social distancing, and sanitizers on employees as well as customers otherwise they will be assaulted. 

And it's quite certain that the current pandemic moment, frustration is causing a surge in angry exchanges among friends, families, couples, colleagues, etc. And this unfocused suspect of anger is usually termed as 'Displaced Aggression.' We all have been the victim of this one. 

I would explain to you this by giving an example - you were pissed off because of your boss and that boss' anger you burst out on your innocent friend who was just concern for you. 

And it generally has two reasons according to a study - 
1) You cannot target your anger because of the unavailability of the target like you are angry with some specific Bollywood actor so he is not available and there will be no calculation of numbers of how family and friends fight this Bollywood has caused in a person's life.

2) The target is available but you cannot expel because of some fear like you are angry with your teacher or boss due to some reason, but you can't show your anger to them because that might create a negative impact of yours and yell at a family member is safer. 

Aggression is a natural process. You don't have to teach any child or any adult to be aggressive, that's come easily and by its own, the thing you have to teach them is how to have control on the anger which is self-control and not to do something wrong like shout, yell, scream, throw things on someone when they are frustrated. 

Like we keep an animal in a cage, we should learn to keep anger in a cage. Anger multiplies anger, and it is generally lash out on the places where the target is easy. I remember an old saying related to it - 'A man with a hammer, everything is a nail.'

How can people put down the hammer of anger - or avoid taking it first? The simple remedy is to avoid all those things and situations which make you angry.

Like if I talk about the current situation, if that makes you angry then limit your time watching the news, reading articles, and social media platforms that provide information about the virus and the falling economy. The sooner you can get rid of the anger in the shoot, the better. Rumination - basically, thinking or recalling something that made you angry - often turns the anger into 11.

I would like to share my own experience. I was a short-tempered person who used to shout on anyone without any reason and use to fight for no reason but a few days back I met a person who is my good friend, now he observed my problem and taught me the consequences of anger on my personal life as well as social life. I would like to share his tactics of controlling anger with all of you so that you can even try to get rid of anger. So they are - start jumping when you are filled with anger, leave the situation, have the thinking of 'let it be' which means simply to ignore, go for a nature walk, listening to your favorite playlist, have your favorite food, keep quiet till you cool down or talk to your favorite person and many more. And today is the day when I am just 1% of a short-tempered person as compared earlier and I am really thankful to the person who actually motivated to control my anger and change myself to lead a happy life. I am still in the process of controlling anger because it's really important for health and life.

It was said by someone "Anger is a punishment we give to ourselves, for somebody else's mistakes!"

Try controlling your anger from today itself before your anger controls you.

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  1. AmaZing...!the way u express ur views is totally amazing nd this topic...worth reading! ❤ keep posting girl.💞

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