A Relationship With Yourself

Something sounds simple, but it's hard to practice. One of them is a relationship with ourselves. It's difficult to build, maintain, and nurture. Once in your lifetime, you will get introduced to this relationship.

When I was introduced to the path of self-love, I was in my darkest side of my life. Many times we are filled with so many mixed feelings that we really want to scratch our head or bang our head on the wall.

I have felt that empty void gulf deep inside me engulfed from the screams of confusion, anxiety, depression. No matter if you have achieved everything in your life, then also you will feel like something is missing. Right? We all have experienced this differently, but all will have different outcomes.

Self-love is something that can't be taught. One will experience it in the most painful and challenging moments. But at that time we are unable to recognize it as we are busy looking at what we don't get.
The journey of self-love is always there to welcome you, embrace it, experience it, accept it.

Self-love is not about pampering, hugging yourself out. It's just that to remain alive (tuned) with ourselves. When we have not set ourselves free, it affects our life, but we are unaware of it.
Self-love has many stages like healing, acceptance, setting boundaries, compassion, meditation, forgiveness, and much more.

Are you ready to enjoy the journey of self- love? Are you ready to have a relationship with ourselves? Are you ready to be unconditionally loved and be free?

THE HEALING
     The hardest among the path is healing. Many of us don't know the power and importance of healing. I will tell you one instance of this - once my friend was disheartened as she was cheated by her friends, she lost trust, hope everything and I was the one healing her through supporting, consoling, listening, giving emotional and mental support to her. It's easy to give a long motivational lecture to someone when they are going through the painful moments but quite difficult to console ourselves when we face the same situation. Then why do we need someone to console, listen to us? When I went through the same it was really difficult to be out of the situation. It took me approx 2.5 years to be out of that trauma. Then I actually realized we can easily give healing therapy to someone else but it's difficult to give to ourselves.

We neglect when it comes to us. We feel if we will ignore, it will stop disturbing us, but the fact is, it will disturb you more. It affects us in many ways- it affects when we make decisions, it affects your current relationship, your outlook on life, confidence, mental health, and much more.

We should be thankful to this quarantine who has given us time to face ourselves because if not now? Then when? How long we will keep ourselves busy with work, ask answers in relationships, and so on. To heal ourselves the only person who can answer this is YOU. It's painful to look back at things that we have blocked in our life.

You are the biggest protector - no one will come to heal you. It is not a race take as much time as you need to heal yourself, but once you feel you are done don't ever look back and don't even cry for the same reason.

LEARN TO SAY NO
     Many things we do deplete us as well as our time, so start protecting yourself from the things you don't want in your life. Start saying NO to the things as that would not mean that you are a bad person and rude. That will simply mean you have your set priorities and boundaries in your life. Trust yourself when your intuitions are saying something or when you are uncomfortable about someone or something. Many times we are worst at making decisions, so learn to 'listen'.

ME TIME
     Everyone feels at some point in a day or after a week they need their personal downtime. Where we feel like unplugging ourselves from the world. Right?
Basically, during me-time you just have to listen yourself deep down and think of the moments how you will talk to yourself in situations like distress.
Meditation helps to listen to the voice inside us that clutters us. It's hard to sit with those thoughts and face them. You will easily get distracted, but find a way to come back.

YOU ARE NOT A ROBOT
     We all are humans and we have plenty of emotions, but we have created this that we will not show up our feelings. When we do this we unintentionally hurt the people around us.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY
     Let's start the journey of self-love today itself as you will start. Don't forget to embrace and enjoy it to the fullest. You will face many moments when you will feel you can't face them, but certainly when you will push yourself a bit you will be able to face them.

As I mentioned above self-love can't be taught. It can be experienced on the soul level. Once you will start with it, you will feel its presence is stronger and it has open arms to greet you, embrace you, and accept you.

Let's build a relationship with ourselves - A path to self-love.

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